Family Constellations: discover and transform your patterns

Have you ever wondered why certain behaviors or emotions seem to stick with you, even when they don't feel like 'you'? If you're ready to uncover hidden family patterns and transform your life, then this blog is for you. Family constellations offer a unique and transformative way to uncover and heal deep-rooted patterns passed down through generations. These patterns, often unconscious, can shape our lives in surprising ways until we understand and release them.

Charissa from House of Mila explains this beautifully:

“Have you ever wondered why you sometimes follow the same patterns as your parents, even when they don’t feel comfortable? Many of us have family habits that are passed down without question—‘That’s just how we do it.’ Imagine you make a sandwich in a set way and ask your mom why. She says, ‘That's how I learned it from grandma.’ But when grandma explains, it turns out that when she was young, she only had a spoon to use—knives were taken away. Patterns like this often get passed down from generation to generation, usually unconsciously and with good intentions. Until one day, someone asks, ‘But why, really?’

When it comes to deeper issues like trauma, things can get more complicated. Family connections remain strong, even between family members who never met. Theory calls this the ‘family soul’ or ‘unconditional love.’ Because of this bond, we sometimes carry burdens that aren’t really ours, like the loss and guilt of a grandfather who lost his farm in the war. Generations later, this can still impact family members without anyone realizing where it comes from. And these patterns continue until the original trauma gets the recognition it deserves.”

Our experience with a Family Constellation

When we first heard about family constellations at a spiritual conference in the Netherlands, we were intrigued but unsure what to expect. After returning to the Costa Blanca, we decided to book a session with Charissa at House of Mila.

The experience was nothing short of transformative. Through the session, we uncovered patterns from our family history that shaped our emotions and behavior. We realized that some of the burdens we carried weren’t even ours—they had been passed down from previous generations.

By acknowledging these connections and 'giving back' what wasn’t ours to carry, we felt an incredible sense of lightness, energy and peace. It was as if a weight we didn’t fully understand had been lifted, leaving us more grounded and connected to ourselves.

Why should you consider a Family Constellation?

Family constellations can help with:

• Understanding and breaking unhelpful patterns.

• Resolving inner conflicts and emotional burdens.

• Reconnecting with yourself and your family in a healthier way.

Charissa’s empathetic approach ensures that these deeply personal sessions are both safe and transformative. You’ll gain insights into your life and leave with tools to continue healing and growing.

Book your Family Constellation today

Are you ready to explore and transform your patterns? Visit House of Mila’s website to learn more about family constellations and schedule your session with Charissa. Let her guide you through this powerful journey of healing and self-discovery.

Experience the transformation for yourself and take a step toward living a lighter, more authentic life.

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